Life Lesson # 2 – good deeds

People who enjoy doing good deeds do this out of the goodness of their heart and never say a word about it. It is second nature to them because it is part of who they are and they are not looking for praise from anyone.

People who do good deeds for others and tell other people about it are doing it for self-gratification. They need everyone to know all the good things they have done they are looking for praise.

You should never brag or boast when you do something nice for someone if you do then you are doing it for all the wrong reasons.

Toxic people

We have all known toxic people whether it be a friend, acquaintance, or a family member.

Toxic people need a victim and if their victim is no longer around they will reach out to the next person they are closest to.

You can not please a toxic person no matter how much you do for them it is never enough because they feel like everyone owes them something.

You have to have enough Self-Respect and Self-Love to understand that no one should be allowed to belittle, insult, shame or ridicule you.

The day you realize that this is Verbal Abuse you will wonder why it took you so long to see it. This is not a healthy relationship for anyone.

Everyone deserves to be treated with love, kindness, and respect.

There comes a time in your life you need to shut the door and slam it hard behind you.

That will be the day you can start healing and feel the calmness entering your life because you are now free of the abuse.

That is the day you will realize you are no longer a VICTIM.

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The inspiration of a grandmother

My grandmother taught me so much in her lifetime many lessons I will never forget.

We called her Mama Dot and she taught me to appreciate the little things in life, be grateful for what you have and never be materialistic.

She taught me how to enjoy working in your yard and making it beautiful. Then you can stand back and look at what you created.

I have several things in my yard that came from hers. Now I know the reason she always shared things from her yard was so she could always be remembered. 

She loved listening to the birds sing and feeding them. I think that is one reason I love doing this.

She spoke from the heart and was never fake she did not believe in sugar coating anything. I guess that is where I get the guts to voice my opinions and speak from the heart.

Today so many people sugar coat everything they say and they are just so fake.

Mama Dot was very special to me and I knew I could always count on her whenever I needed some advice, a hug, or just a friend. I knew I could count on her inspirational words of wisdom.

Her unconditional love for me meant it was a real love with no strings attached her love was genuine.

 

 

 

Liars

We have two close family members that fall into the pathological lying category.

I went my whole life without realizing the older one was a liar. Funny the day you realize someone has been a liar your entire life it changes everything about the past.

Now I am wondering if the older one taught the middle-aged one how to lie. It is quite interesting when you think about it. What are the odds for there to be two in the same family in such close relation that are both pathological liars?

You have to love it when the pathological liar never admits they are wrong and NEVER says I am sorry.  Instead, they just makeup lies about you and change the subject of the conversation. I guess it makes them feel better about themselves and their low self-esteem.

When you have two doing this together it is like a lethal weapon to everyone around them. Some of us are wise to what is going on others just play along and some chose to ignore the whole thing and pretend it will just go away.

It is always better to stay far away from these type people and have no contact at all with them because nothing good ever comes of their lies.

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Life Lesson #1 – Storms will pass

Life Lesson # 1 –  Storms will pass

There are people in our lives that turn every situation in life to be about them because they have to be the center of attention. We tend to call them the “Drama Queens”.

They will never say ” I am sorry” or never admit any wrong doing.

They love to talk behind people’s back and play one person against another like a game.

What they do not realize is some people already see them for who they really are.

The storms they have created in my life the last few years have only made me stronger.

BRING ON THE RAIN!