Toxic people

We have all known toxic people whether it be a friend, acquaintance, or a family member.

Toxic people need a victim and if their victim is no longer around they will reach out to the next person they are closest to.

You can not please a toxic person no matter how much you do for them it is never enough because they feel like everyone owes them something.

You have to have enough Self-Respect and Self-Love to understand that no one should be allowed to belittle, insult, shame or ridicule you.

The day you realize that this is Verbal Abuse you will wonder why it took you so long to see it. This is not a healthy relationship for anyone.

Everyone deserves to be treated with love, kindness, and respect.

There comes a time in your life you need to shut the door and slam it hard behind you.

That will be the day you can start healing and feel the calmness entering your life because you are now free of the abuse.

That is the day you will realize you are no longer a VICTIM.

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Liars

We have two close family members that fall into the pathological lying category.

I went my whole life without realizing the older one was a liar. Funny the day you realize someone has been a liar your entire life it changes everything about the past.

Now I am wondering if the older one taught the middle-aged one how to lie. It is quite interesting when you think about it. What are the odds for there to be two in the same family in such close relation that are both pathological liars?

You have to love it when the pathological liar never admits they are wrong and NEVER says I am sorry.  Instead, they just makeup lies about you and change the subject of the conversation. I guess it makes them feel better about themselves and their low self-esteem.

When you have two doing this together it is like a lethal weapon to everyone around them. Some of us are wise to what is going on others just play along and some chose to ignore the whole thing and pretend it will just go away.

It is always better to stay far away from these type people and have no contact at all with them because nothing good ever comes of their lies.

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Life Lesson #1 – Storms will pass

Life Lesson # 1 –  Storms will pass

There are people in our lives that turn every situation in life to be about them because they have to be the center of attention. We tend to call them the “Drama Queens”.

They will never say ” I am sorry” or never admit any wrong doing.

They love to talk behind people’s back and play one person against another like a game.

What they do not realize is some people already see them for who they really are.

The storms they have created in my life the last few years have only made me stronger.

BRING ON THE RAIN!

 

 

 

My hair disaster

My hair is a medium to dark brown and I normally get highlights and low lights in it, but I decided to try something different this year.

The person who normally does my hair moved so I needed a new hairdresser. This lady had cut my hair one time so I figured she would be fine to do my color. WRONG!

I was about 5 % grey so I figured my best bet might be to get my hair colored instead of the highlights and lowlights. Sounds fairly simple right? NOT!

I specifically said I do not want any RED in my hair. My hair was red. I was quite upset. It was not a flaming red just a red that I did not like. I questioned her about and she said it was honey colored. I thought it was just me so I asked my husband what color is my hair he said “its red.”

By this point I was feeling like Lucille Ball but it was not that red but to me it might have well as been.

I decided not to go back to the person who screwed it up even though she would have had to fix it for free. I figured if she did not listen to me the first time what was the point of trying again.

The young lady I went to  listened to me and my hair is exactly what I wanted.

It frustrates me when people do not listen especially if I am paying them $85.00 for a service. I paid another $75.00 to get it fixed.

The lessons I learned were to never trust just anyone with my hair. Never go back to the first place again.

I found a new hairdresser that I will continue to go to from now on. She had to clean up someone else’s mess, but she did a great job and most of all she listened. She even fit me in last-minute which says a lot. When someone pays money for a service they should always get what they asked for nothing less.

Life lessons

I think we all grew up and learned a few life lessons

  1. Never talk back. – This one was hard, especially during your teen years.
  2. Do what your told to do. – What kid ever cleaned their room the first time.
  3. Be Polite –  Always say please and thank you.
  4. Forgive and Forget- When someone is mean to you just let it go.
  5. Apologize – to those you hurt say I am sorry.
  6. Focus on the present not the past. – Do not keep looking back at the past focus on the present.
  7. Learn from your mistakes – If you do something wrong next time do it right. Do not do the same thing over and over again.

Life’s lessons are something we have all learned through the years.

I am grateful for the life lessons I have learned. I think they have made me a better person.